Thought you left bullying behind in school ? Think again . People take their prejudices out into
the world with them, so bullies can appear anywhere : at work, in church and even in your own
family. They might not throw you against a locker or shake you down for lunch money but dealing with constant teasing and negative comments can be troubling for even the hardiest soul . Instead of pulling your hair out in frustration , or caving into the pressure to change your hair , here are a few common sense tips to help you and your children against any wagging tongues speaking out against your hair .
1 . Don ’t Ignore it ( unless you want to )
If someone is making it a point to insult you , sweeping it under the rug can trigger a host of issues including depression and low self esteem and eventually affect job or school performance . If it ’ s bothering you , don ’ t be afraid to address the issue.
2 . Keep Records
Many schools and workplaces have a zero tolerance policy against physical and verbal aggression . If someone is taunting you , or your child has been targeted by bullies at school , make sure to document the incidents so you have a clear, objective record of assault that you can present to an authority figure.
3 . Stand Up
Don’ t be afraid to confront your tormentor, carefully. Calling them out in front a large crowd could exacerbate the situation. Find a moment when the two of you (and perhaps a neutral third party ) can speak privately, and address your concerns. Stick to the facts , and give the bully the chance to respond . Let them know firmly but politely that if the teasing doesn’ t stop , you’ ll be forced to escalate the situation to Human Resources .
For children , confronting a bully can be a bit more difficult . According to http://www.stopbullying.gov, the government official anti-bullying website, its best for kids to confront bullies in the presence of group . It recommends that children try diffusing bullying situations with a joke or by telling their aggressors to back off in a calm, unemotional voice. If they don ’ t want to speak , then kids should walk away and find an adult to stop the attack .
4 . Talk to the Boss
Most adults and kids will back off when confronted , but in special cases , like when you ’re dealing with the most asinine and/or evil, you may need help from a higher authority . If you can’ t get your co-worker to make peace, talk to your HR representative. If you’re taking flack from a friend or relative, recruit a mutual acquaintance as an advocate when you confront the bully .
When your child needs to talk with someone about bullying , make sure he or she knows that they come to you for help . Together , the two of you can come up with a plan to tell the teacher or principal about the situation .
5 . Exit Strategy
Let ’s say dealing with a bullying situation with logic and reason doesn’t work . You’ve spoken to them on several occasions, but they just can’ t get it that your hair is your business . In fact, speaking to them only made things worse . Then it’s time to remove yourself from the equation. If a friend or even a brother won ’ t stop criticizing your curls , put some serious distance between the two of you . Forgoing a family event or getting a new job may seem disruptive, but making a drastic change is better than dealing with a demoralizing and possibly dangerous situation.
6 . Set the Example
If you witness someone being bullied , step in and change the conversation . When a person is being harassed, the silence of witnesses is often mistaken for consent . If an encounter makes you uncomfortable, say something . Set the example , by refusing to gossip or mock others for their differences or personal choices . That means no going in on women rocking relaxers or weaves , or endless preaching about the merits of natural hair .
There’s real merit for in stepping for children . In bullying cases involving kids, nearly half of all
encounters stop when a bystander gets involved.
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